Thought Potential: Sometimes we just need to get out of our own way.

Sometimes we just need to get out of our own way.

What are you blocking yourself from? 

On a regular basis, I'll post a short insight I've experienced to be true in my life. And then a question to provoke thought. So I am calling them "thought potential".  I wouldn't be a good coach if I didn't ask a question so feel free to share your thoughts, comment, tell a story or insight or disagree. The floor is yours... 

Negative thoughts stealing your time?

Do you ever get stuck in patterns of thinking that are not productive or positive? Maybe its dwelling on a past experience you wish you could change, or maybe its hurt feelings and "poor me" thoughts. Whatever the negative thought you're getting caught up and the next thing you know time is lost and you are frustrated with yourself even more. Ugh!

We could also call it a bad habit. Because just like an external habit, your thoughts create patterns that repeat. If you fall into a trap of negative thoughts and repeat them on a regular basis, they become a habit. 

So how do you create good thought habits?  What is the first step?

Step 1: Recognize the thoughts that lead to destructive thinking. Set an alarm for yourself in your mind that goes off when you begin to think of the bad habit thoughts. This is one of the hardest steps because it is change and change is never easy. When you find that you doing it, celebrate. You have taken the first step towards creating a new habit!!

Step 2: Redirect your thoughts outside yourself. Create a new path for your thoughts to go. Focusing outside yourself is always a strong redirection. Here are a couple positive things you can redirect your thoughts to:

  • Being thankful for someone or something. Gratitude is a powerful tool for positive thinking. It has been proven that when people regularly set time to be thankful they are less likely to be depressed.
  • Asking the question, "how can I love better?"  When we are thinking of others and truly loving them, the focus is off ourselves and the anxiety lessens. If thoughts go back to you and any insecurities about how you love others, we are not able to love others.

As you practice this thought shift, anxious thoughts will not have as strong a hold on your time and energy. Your energy wont be spent fighting the thoughts and you will have an easier time identifying the bad habits and begin to process them in a different way.

Try it and let me know what you notice...


Why do we get stuck?

Everyone gets stuck.  

I was stuck launching this website. It was ready two weeks ago except for a small break in the code on one page. Rather than make the small change and launch, I became distracted by a shift in my target audience and updating the business plan, then the marketing plan, then a new technique I learned with clients, blahblahblah. And the next thing I know it is two weeks later and I'm wondering why I haven't launched the website.

Am I lazy? Do I lack focus? 

Everyday I thought about it but made excuses that thinking through the other things was necessary first before I launched. So I actually was doing something.

I want to be more disciplined in my processes and my distractions were a good example of where I am not being disciplined. Why was it taking me so long to get the website up?  I brought this up with my coach and their question was "How do you FEEL about launching the website?"

Bingo. I had an insight. I was AFRAID.

Launching meant this is official, I am really launching my own practice, working for myself, and every risk and reward that goes with it. Fear was holding me back from launching. But an amazing thing happened when I had the insight, I could no longer avoid the truth and I had amazing clarity about the fear that made it less scary. I was now ready to take action.

That's what happens in coaching. 

Your coach asks you questions. You have an insight. You become clear. You take action. It seems simple but sometimes there is so much stuff to go through to get to the big insight that it takes a while. But it works. This post is proof. The website is launched.  

Are you stuck? Do you need a coach?

How would Jesus Unearth People's Potential?

When I first asked myself how does Jesus unearth people's potential, the first person I thought of was Peter. If you read about Peter in the Bible, you quickly see that Peter wants to live a life devoted to Christ and Christ clearly sees great potential in Peter. But Peter is the apostle that doesn't quite get right the first time. One key example of this is when Christ told Peter he would deny Him.

Why would Jesus do that?  I don't think He told Peter to try to stop Him from doing it. I believe it was Christ helping Peter to realize his potential in ways Peter could truly understand: by experiencing it for himself.

There were two main elements that Peter needed to experience to understand:

1. Failure

2. Forgiveness

When do we learn the most? After we fail.

By calling to Peter's attention his denial, Christ is telling Peter this is one of the biggest things you can't do if you want to live a life devoted to me. But Peter, like most of us, needs to test it, experience why its wrong to learn the right way to do it. Without having heard Christ tell him it was going to happen, experiencing the shame and guilt for having done it, the experience may not have been a big enough deal for Peter. So Christ ensures it is a big deal and tells him in advance.

What experiences in your life do you know are wrong? How do you know they are wrong?

Have you done them anyway? How does it make you feel?

Have you done it again? If so, why? or why not?

In order for Peter to move forward in the life Christ sees him as the head of the church, Peter must first understand He is forgiven for messing up. (John 21:15-19). Christ confirms this by asking Peter "Do you love me?" three times. Once Peter gets it, he understands that he no longer has to emotionally beat himself up for what he's done or sacrifice to atone because Jesus has forgiven his sin. He understands what forgiveness means because he knows and loves Jesus.

By greater understanding, of failure and forgiveness Peter is now fulfill Christ request to "Feed my sheep" and lead the church and live out his potential.

In what areas of your life do you need to understand that you are forgiven so you can move on to live out your potential?


Understanding Our God-Given Strengths

Ever feel like you are not living your best life? Like there is something more to it?  

Me too.  

For me the journey for so long was outward, travel, new life experiences, adventure. But it wasn't until I started journeying inward to really understand who I am and how I was created and what I believe that I really started to live my best life.  

I found a great passage in the bible that really helped me understand what it means to know God - Matthew 25: 14 - 25 The Parable of the Talents. Click through for a great breakout of what it means to me.